My Youtube Channel

Here is my very first Youtube video. I made it last year to introduce people to my channel. I hope to release more videos soon. I will be talking about various aspects of coaching, counselling, therapy, etc. As well as sharing things about my life in general.
Thank you for watching, and commenting, on my videos and reading blog posts.

Do your roles in life, serve your higher purpose?

Work. It is something which can take up quite a significant portion of your life. It's the way which you fund your lifestyle, and you use your education to help you reach your potential in the world of careers. Surely you want deserve to do something you enjoy? But it turns out that there are millions of people who are doing jobs they hate. Sound familiar?
There can be any number of reasons why people do these jobs, sometimes these people may not even be aware why they are settling for such roles (and settling is exactly what they are doing). This also extends to non-working roles such as those in relationships. For instance; parent, child, carer, or partner. These roles can become habitual, to the extent that they are no longer even acknowledged,  and then become part of the identity of the individual.
Is that what you want? Do you want this role to define you, to become your identity? Is that who your are? or could you be so much more?

The 5 most important things you need to do, RIGHT NOW!

As part of my coaching qualification, I am completing a module on NLP coaching. This is through working through the textbook The NLP Coach by Ian McDermott and Wendy Jago ( affiliate link). One of the questions is based on the chapter about Health, Wealth, and Happiness and asks for the 5 most important goals at this current moment, based on what has been read. Below, you will find the goals which I have decided apply to me. 
  1. Re-evaluate my norm of health: Over the years, I have become accustomed to the idea that my health is what is ‘normal’ for me (which meant that it would be pointless trying to improve it). This allowed me to avoid responsibility, and also the possibility of failure. I realised that I needed to make a change here when my joints started to ache and become less supple. This was significant for me as I have always been quite flexible, and I want to retain that as I grow into my late 20’s and further. Partly because I enjoy the sense of freedom such flexibility provides me, and also because I enjoy being able to participate in play with the younger children in my family. I am also concerned about the various instances of illness in older family members, which is a motivator for me to take care of my body before it ends up in a state of disrepair.
  2. More exercise. This is something which I have been meaning to get around to for a while now. To help me build the habit, I have decided to take up swimming again. This is something which I thoroughly enjoy and find it is good for my emotional and mental wellbeing, as well as physical fitness. Because of this, I can use it as both a way to build my fitness, as well as to relax a few times a week. There is a swimming pool in walking distance of where I volunteer, so I have started going after being there. This helps me to unwind as the sessions can sometimes be quite intense (particularly due to the role being in a hospice).

March is International Ideas Month

I found out the other day, that this month is International Ideas Month. I feel like I've missed an opportunity here, but I've also (unintentionally) been taking part. I've been carrying a small journal notebook on me because I get ideas at the strangest time, and usually have no way to record them. But this 'commonplace book' method has been a godsend. I don't know why I didn't try it sooner. Using it, I've been recording some ideas over the past week or so for various projects. These have included extra bits I could use in my coursework, potential ebooks I could compile to share, videos I could share on my youtube channel, and ideas for future posts on this website - amongst other things.

If anyone is working on a project, or looking to start a new one, here are some tips which I think could be useful.

  1. Carry a notebook/journal/commonplace book EVERYWHERE: - I was surprised at the different places inspiration can strike. If you tell yourself that you will remember it later, chances are you won't. It doesn't have to be a fancy notebook (I actually find cheap ones to be better, because I can really go to town on filling them up and it doesn't matter so much if they get beat up and damaged).
  2. Read widely: - Reading something new - or rereading an old book with a new approach - can spark inspiration. This can either be directly from the book, or the book reminding you of something you heard elsewhere. Oh, and of course, don't limit your reading to books. Magazines, journals, newspapers, websites, blogs, etc. all provide fuel for creative fires.
  3. Watch widely: - This is an extension of the above point, but watch all sorts. Youtube provides a wonderful resource for finding new things, and the format could be something you become interested in getting involved in yourself.
  4. Mix up your routine: - We can all get stuck in a rut, which stifles creativity and inspiration. So encourage yourself to do something different to mix things up. It doesn't have to be wild, just a small change can get the ball rolling. For instance, going to a new place for your lunch at work/school, or going for a 15 minute walk on a night once you have finished your dinner. Just doing something different can perk your brain up and clear out the cobwebs.
  5. Finally, don't force it: - This is one of the most important points, if not THE most important. Don't try to force ideas, doing so just builds up frustration and resistance. If your are facing creative blockages, I find it more useful to go do something relaxing and enjoyable. This helps lower my tension levels and open my mind to new possibilities. I find it can be useful to build a little 'inspiration station' where there are books, resources, and items which inspire me. There is also a playlist I have on my phone which has music which gets me into the creative mood again, and when I put that on I get into the flow straight away (it is actually playing as I write this post 😉).

Here are some questions for YOU to ponder;
HOW do you record ideas? WHERE do you get your best ideas? WHAT kinds of ideas do you get? HOW can you get the creative juices pumping to come up with some brand new ideas? WHAT is your newest idea?
Get stuck in, enjoy it, and go create something new and amazing. You have all the creativity you need locked inside, it's just a matter of finding the right key.

Who am I?

Well that is a question which can open up various cans of worms, or be like hitting a brick wall - all depending on how you look at the question. The same is true for how we look at obstacles in our lives, but thats a discussion for another time.

Ok, well let's start with the brick wall answer. "My name is Aaron and I am a 22 year old law graduate, from Durham in the North East of England. I am currently studying to become a Holistic Life Coach and will begin a degree in Counselling in September."

Not very exciting is it?

How about this?
"My name is Aaron, I abandoned a career in law because I became disenchanted by the idea of working to make a big company more money. Instead I want to live my passion of helping people to feel happier, more fulfilled, and with a reinvigorated enthusiasm for life."

Or even this...
"I am in the process of learning techniques to help others grab life by the balls, and find the power to do whatever the f**k they want."

Yes. That sounds a lot more exciting, and is still 100% true. Just goes to show the difference a little reframing can do (a topic I will devote a separate post to in the near future).

These are some other interesting bits of trivia about me, which serve to colour the tapestry that is my personality;
  • I like music, all sorts of music. I can go from Adele, to Neon Trees, to Pvris, and then on to St. Vincent all in one playlist. Variety is the spice of life.
  • ...and I prefer to listen with earphones in, even when alone in the house. I'm overcoming this though with speakers. I'd love a Sonos system to have music playing throughout my home and be able to just go about my business with it being seamless. 
  • I like tea and coffee, but go through phases of which I prefer.
  • I'm not a dog or a cat person, I like both for different reasons and would actually like to have both.
  • I much prefer physical books to digital. I will also never throw away a book if I can help it. I will always pass it on or donate it to charity.
  • Autumn is my favourite season (but only when dry)... and spring my least. I like summer and winter equally.
  • Big spoon, but like to be the little one sometimes.
  • I believe in ghosts - and recent experiences at work have reinforced this.
  • Preferences: Savoury over sweet. cold over heat, veg over meat.
  • ...yes seriously. Even when I was a kid I wouldn't be bothered by sweets and dark chocolate has always been my favourite.
  • I'd rather eat Chinese/Japanese food at Christmas, I am not a fan of the traditional roast.
Well I think that is enough about me for now. I'm sure I'll share more about myself in the future. My instagram account will reveal more about me if you wish to have a snoop around on there.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Wishing you well and all kinds of happiness.

Welcome to my new website

I have recently decided to set up a new website, for a number of reasons (such as my old platform freezing up whenever I wanted to make changes, and wanting to connect my website more closely with my youtube channel. Generally I just wanted more cohesion and simplicity in my online presence.

This desire for 'stripping down' has taken hold in various areas of my life, not just online. Yes I have taken a step back from Facebook, so that I no longer use my personal account - whilst still using the 'pages', 'messenger' and 'groups' apps on my phone in order to stay connected to the things which are important to me. Other areas which I have stripped back on are my home (I have donated a lot of things which I am not using recently), my spending, and even my diet.

These are all things which I will go into more detail with in the future, as well as sharing other things which aren't as personal to me - but which do pertain to my career path. So, stick around if you want to hear more from me. I will be sharing insights into self-help, personal development, coaching & counselling techniques, spirituality, and more. I am also open to suggestions for what I could discuss, so feel free to comment and tell me what you would like to read about.

Thank you for visiting,

A. E.