Saturday, 23 June 2018

I am going to sell all my belongings and backpack around the world...

Well... maybe not, but it sounds like such a freeing idea doesn't it.
Recently I stumbled upon the idea of minimalism. I had heard of it before in arbitrary ways, but I had never heard of it in this way. It all started with a few YouTube videos, and spiralled from there. (These are the videos by the way - My top 5 tips for beginners50 things to get rid of in 2018 and this documentary which I watched on Netflix).

I started watching and was instantly hooked. The idea of getting rid of all my clutter, in order to focus on what is important, just made sense. Everyone feels better after having a spring clean and gutting out all of the rubbish, right? So why not apply that to all areas of your life.

O.K., so I have to say here that I am by no means close to being what I would call a minimalist just yet. But I do feel I am in a stage of transition. I am curbing my buying habits - as I was a bit addicted to Amazon - and working through my stuff to get rid of what I don't need. You don't realise how much stuff you have until you actually start being thorough in your clearing out. I have started on my clothes, and pared down my wardrobe dramatically (and I still have plenty spare). I am hoping to make another pass over my clothes once the weather has settled down so that I don't leave myself with only shorts whilst it is lashing down with rain outside.

Also, eBay has become my new best friend. I have started selling off anything of mine which I don't need/want/use so that it goes to someone who would actually use it. I am doing this gradually though so that I don't accidentally get rid of something which i then want 3 days after posting it. Still though, the process feels cathartic and freeing. Over time, I hope to get down to just the bare essentials of what I need and use. I already have a good idea of what a few of my big things to keep will be, but it is all the little nick-knacks which I am struggling with.

I will keep you updated, and would like to know if any of you guys are interested in this mindset. Or even if you think I am making a big mistake. Leave me a comment and share your thoughts.

Bye for now,


Sunday, 27 May 2018

"Grill" - #SoCS - 26th May 2018

So, 'Grill'. Right, how can I respond to this?
Look, there I am. Grilling myself. Ha very 'punny'.
OK, let's be sensible here.
Oh, this is going to be interesting. LEt's grill myself as to why I feel I need to be sensible.

Here we go.

So Aaron, why do you feel you need to be sensible?
I think it is because I am worried that people will think I don't have anything important to share. Or that they won't be interested if I just post random rambles. So, as a result, I try to come up with 'interesting' things, rather than things which just interest me. Another effect of this being that I get burned out because it becomes a chore to write/record/post anymore. Maybe that's why my online presence has been quite flaky.

So how does that make you feel?
Disappointed. In myself. I feel like I am not allowing myself to be as free as I could be. Which is strange as my whole mindset when it comes to helping others, is to encourage them to be as free as possible to do whatever they want. Maybe I need to take my own advice and start sharing what really makes me smile, rather than what I think I ought to share.

What are you going to do about it?
I am going to allow myself to make what interests me and share it with the world. I'm going to strive to be more authentic, which will (hopefully) attract my 'tribe'. I'd love to be connected to a bunch of creative, self-reflective, ethical, soulful, lightworker type people. I know that is a very 'woo woo' term, but it does actually speak to the type of people I want to be connected with.

Let's do this.

This post was written in response to the prompt for this week provided by LindaGHill for Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Thursday, 15 February 2018

My YouTube Channel

Hi again everyone, I hope you are doing well.

I have been looking over my old content, and thinking about what I could publish in the future, when I realised that I haven't shared about my channel here for a while. I also realised that I have got quite a few ideas for posts and videos stored up, but I tend to second guess myself about what people will be interested in hearing about from my point of view. As a result, I talk myself out of creating content in an effort to 'play it safe'. This is something which I want to change. I want to feel free to share whatever content I find interesting myself, without worrying whether it will be beneficial to other people. When I think about this actually, I noticed that my inspiration tends to come from things which are currently popular with the people around me. This means that there is interest in that content, and so I can contribute to the conversation in my own way. I don't know why I didn't think of that before. Well, the past is past, and I can use that inspiration for future content. So it is not a waste in any case.

As for wanting to share my channel again, HERE is a link to it. There are some videos there which I uploaded last year. I am looking to create some newer ones soon, and any ideas for topics would be greatly appreciated. Feel free to comment and let me know what you think.

If you would like to go directly to my channel introduction, you can find that HERE. I will be creating a new introduction to take in to account my new level of training, and the direction I would like to take things in.

I hope you enjoy what I have shared, and I invite you to let me know about any suggestions you may have. Please bear in mind that I will be coming at things from the viewpoint of a trainee counsellor, who has some experience in life coaching, and mental health/learning disability residential care.

Thank you for reading/watching and, until next time, take care!

Saturday, 10 February 2018

Chasing your own tail with tales - My first #SoCS after an extended break

This post is written as part of LindaGHill's 'Stream of Consciousness Saturday' activity. Find the most recent prompt HERE

OK, so the prompt for this week is tail/tale. Well I can work with that, and can even link it into the theme of my blog which is coaching and counselling. So, where to begin. Maybe an explanation of why I think the connection is a good one would be ideal. Ok.

So, in counselling settings (and even coaching if I'm honest), clients can all too often end up stuck in a cycle of 'telling their story' (the tale part is here). This is because they have felt that this becomes the way in which they must live their life, to the point that it becomes an unescapable narrative and a even a self-fulfilling prophecy. Consequently, the client feels there is no way out of the cycle and becomes stuck. Effectively, chasing their own tail.
God this sounds a bit too hamfisted the way I am explaining, but it is the truth - what I have found to be the truth anyway.
So, as a counsellor/coach/therapist, it can be my job to help interrupt these cycles of thinking and open up the client's perception so that they can see the full breadth of possibilities in managing their situation. For instance, they may feel that they "can't say no" - an issue I am working through myself - when the truth of the matter is that they WON'T say no. This can either be the result of fear or habit. I myself find that I can't say no because I worry that the person will get angry, or that they will think I am weak and unable to help other people. Then I worry that they will tell other people and they will stop coming to me for help and they will make fun of me. All of this happens in the split second between being asked to help out, and me saying yes. As you can see, the thought process can occur incredibly quickly and is instinctive. I'm sure that many people have similar, automatic thinking processes. That is because we are all human, and it is a characteristic of the human mind to automate whatever it can in order to free up space for self-preservation. The problem with this, however, is that what started out as a useful defensive tactic, can become overgeneralised and applied to a large number of situations which there really is no need for the 'tool' to be used. Alas, the brain becomes so productive that it is counter-productive.
So, how do we break this cycle? CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) is a good approach. This is because it is centred around the idea of breaking unhelpful thinking cycles. It has techniques to open out the cycle into its individual components; this enables the observer to see where the defective step in thinking is. The observer/client can then decide on a more productive thinking step, and begin to introduce this in order to set off a new way of thinking. This can be hard, as it is essentially retraining the brain into a new way of thinking which is conflicting with its habitual patterns. Over time, and with repeated effort and prompting, the brain can learn to adapt to a way of thinking which is desirable. This is useful for issues such as anxiety, worry, addiction, and phobias.

I think I might be starting to ramble on a bit much, so I will leave it here for now. Maybe I should put links to other resources? No, it's fine. A quick google search will bring up enough results. Oh, and Pinterest too. There are loads of free printable worksheets available on there too. Ok, let's leave it there for now. I need a drink of water and am sat in a weird position. I've enjoyed writing this sort of post again. Hopefully I can get back into blogging. Maybe even get back into making videos again soon. I will have plenty of opportunity over the summer to do that, and whilst I am on holiday from work too. I must get my assignment work done too though, that is top priority.
Right, ok. That's enough for now. Time to schedule this and head off. Done!

Friday, 9 February 2018

Supporting, Signing off, and... Slimming

Well hello again. It has been a long time since I last posted, and I am sorry. What that means, however, is that I have lots of things to catch you all up on. So stick around to see what I have been up to these past few months.

Well, first and foremost I would like to tell you that I have been signed off from college for my Counselling foundation degree. What does that mean? Have I passed the course? Am I now a counsellor?
The short answer is I can now practice on 'real' people (i.e not peers on my course). As part of my training to become a counsellor, there is a requirement for a placement of at least 100 hours client contact in a therapeutic setting. So whilst I am not a qualified counsellor yet, I am able to start putting what I have learnt into practice. I am only seeing 2 clients at the moment, but I will be working up to 4 clients a week. My time in this placement will be overseen by my supervisor who I will have regular meetings with to discuss any personal or professional issues which I may have. This is to ensure that I satisfy all ethical and practical requirements. These requirements come from the BACP, where my placement is held, and also from my tutors at college. By complying with these requirements, my clients (and myself) will be kept safe from harm.
Secondly, I am now working as a support worker with Danshell. They manage residential units and hospitals for individuals with Autism, learning disabilities, and mental health issues. The unit I am employed at is geared more towards Autism, but there are some other issues which the service users present with too. The work there is always varied, but incredibly rewarding. It is so amazing to be able to see the difference I am making to the service users' lives, and the whole team are committed to providing good standards of care. It also helps that we are able to have fun at work too. It is definitely not your standard 9-5 office job... where else do you get to go to the cinema, go swimming, play with water, and help cook tea, and it all be part of the job?
...aaaaaand finally, I am looking to start on Slimming World. I have heard great things about its programme (and have seen the results myself in a few friends). It all seems to be very supportive and common-sense in its approach. This is an important thing for me. If things seem too sensational and vague as to the reasons why, then I am inclined to declare it a snake-oil operation and move on swiftly. So, when I found a deal for the starter pack, free enrolment, and two weeks free meetings I just had to snap it up. I am going to start with a small goal, and then adjust accordingly until I find a level at which my body feels healthy and well-balanced. Wish me luck!

So, these are a few of the main things which have been going on in my life recently. There are other things too which I may share in future posts, but for now I need to see how they pan out. Some good, some not so good, but it will pass eventually.
Thank you for taking the time to read my most recent update, I hope you are all doing well, and I wish you the very best. See you again soon (hopefully!)

Aaron :)

Wednesday, 19 July 2017

Negativity Bias - Remember that time when...

Think of a time when you were embarrassed when you were in school... got it?

Ok, now try to think of a time when someone else did something embarrassing...
...I bet that was harder right?

Our brains are hardwired for self-preservation. We learn from our mistakes, and so anything which our mind feels to be 'dangerous' or could lead to falling out of favour with our clan, will be burned into our minds. Kind of as a warning against similar behaviours in the future. This is similar to how we learn other things. We repeat them until they become ingrained into our minds, and then they become second nature (driving, for instance). This way, we will be better prepared to react in the future. The flip side being that we don't tend to remember other people's mistakes, because our brain will disregard that, and focus on our own experiences.

So, next time you feel yourself getting embarrassed about something - say you stumble and fall - just laugh it off, and know that you are learning how not to fall again in the future. You will remember it, but no one else will.

So, until next time, take care - and mind your step 😉

Friday, 14 July 2017

What is Safeguarding?

Here in the UK, we have a system in place for the protection of children and vulnerable adults. This system is managed by a multi-disciplinary team which includes local councils, the NHS, and the Care Quality Commission (CQC). Together, they work to share information, and ensure that the necessary steps are taken to ensure the wellbeing of those in receipt of care.

If you feel like someone is not being treated with dignity, respect, and proper care, then do not feel like there is nothing you can do. You can contact your local council's social care department to let them know that you have a concern. If you are unable to reach them, then you can contact the CQC directly, and they will be able to instigate an investigation. The telephone number being 03000 616161 and the email address being

Do not let your concerns go unheard. Anyone can raise a concern, and should there be an issue, then it will be investigated and rectified.

Remember, neglect and abuse may not always be visible, and may not correspond to stereotypes of what constitutes 'abuse'. If you feel that someone is being treated inappropriately, then there may be an issue.

If you are interested in learning more, here are some links which you may find useful: