Monday, 27 March 2017

The 5 most important things you need to do, RIGHT NOW!

As part of my coaching qualification, I am completing a module on NLP coaching. This is through working through the textbook The NLP Coach by Ian McDermott and Wendy Jago ( affiliate link). One of the questions is based on the chapter about Health, Wealth, and Happiness and asks for the 5 most important goals at this current moment, based on what has been read. Below, you will find the goals which I have decided apply to me. 
  1. Re-evaluate my norm of health: Over the years, I have become accustomed to the idea that my health is what is ‘normal’ for me (which meant that it would be pointless trying to improve it). This allowed me to avoid responsibility, and also the possibility of failure. I realised that I needed to make a change here when my joints started to ache and become less supple. This was significant for me as I have always been quite flexible, and I want to retain that as I grow into my late 20’s and further. Partly because I enjoy the sense of freedom such flexibility provides me, and also because I enjoy being able to participate in play with the younger children in my family. I am also concerned about the various instances of illness in older family members, which is a motivator for me to take care of my body before it ends up in a state of disrepair.
  2. More exercise. This is something which I have been meaning to get around to for a while now. To help me build the habit, I have decided to take up swimming again. This is something which I thoroughly enjoy and find it is good for my emotional and mental wellbeing, as well as physical fitness. Because of this, I can use it as both a way to build my fitness, as well as to relax a few times a week. There is a swimming pool in walking distance of where I volunteer, so I have started going after being there. This helps me to unwind as the sessions can sometimes be quite intense (particularly due to the role being in a hospice).
  3. Start saving money: I would like to start building a nest-egg for when it comes to finding my own place. The price of mortgages in my local area tend to be cheaper than rental, so I would like to build up a fund in order to pay the deposit on a house. That way I will truly have my own place to call home. I value having my own space, and being able to keep my own schedule. This will be more manageable when living either on my own, or with a partner. At the present moment, my schedule (particularly around sleep) is dictated by the working hours of other family members.
  4. Identify what is stoping me from achieving wealth: This is to go hand-in-hand with my previous goal. I have tried to save money in the past, but I always end up dipping into my savings so that I can get something which catches my eye. This is another of the reasons I would like to save money, so that I can make purchases and not have to worry about if I will be breaking the bank. That is one way in which I define wealth. I also see it as being free of unnecessary debt, having a job because I enjoy it - not to merely pay the bills, and also knowing that I will have some money spare at the end of the month as a safety net. But, I struggle to achieve that level due to not leaving my savings alone. So, I am going to look at the reasons why I feel I must make the purchase immediately, and also form a compelling future in order to keep me motivated to save. I will set my baseline as the standard 10% of any income, but I would much rather be able to save more than that (25 or even 30%).
  5. Adjust my perspective: I generally approach life with a ‘worst case scenario’ mindset, in that I spend a great deal of time and energy on being prepared for any eventuality. This is a great source of stress for me, and it also takes me out of the current moment. I can now see that I am giving up my power of agency by living in the future (especially of a future that is likely to never even occur). I think that this stems from a desire to always present an image of being resourceful and dependable. I would much rather be able to focus my attention on the current moment, to feel more connected, and to have less stress. This will allow me to enjoy life and feel a lot more at peace with any issues which do happen to arise (hopefully).

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